I so often hear parents complain of their relationship with their children and the reason being because they are the “disciplinarian” in the family. My first question to them is: What does discipline mean to you? The answers range from being strict, setting up rules, punishing, keeping them on a straight path through rigid means […]

Co-Parenting Etiquette

As per the children’s ACT, BOTH parents have equal rights and responsibilities unless otherwise stated by a Court of Law. When separating/divorcing from your children’s other parent, a lot has to be reconsidered. While living under one roof does not make a family perfect. Living under two roofs certainly will bring its shares of challenges. […]

I’m Stuck

While a divorce/separation is painful, now and again, I meet someone who is really struggling to move on with their life. The first thing to understand is that healing isn’t a linear process. To experience ups and downs are normal. You have been married/together for a certain period of time and a divorce/separation shakes what […]

Pointing Finger

Many people that I meet for counselling or mediation have a finger to point at the other party. I like to begin with establishing that no one is ever blameless. Sure, some people are downright wrong and even bad, but that doesn’t mean that the other person is blameless. Finger Pointing is defined as casting […]

Moving On

All I hear from people going through a divorce is how they want to move on, yet, so many have been battling their divorce for an ongoing 2, 3, 4, and even 5 years. The conflict they are experiencing is sinking them further in a position that feels more like being a hostage to their […]

What is Choice Theory?

By William Glasser, M.D. Choice theory is a new psychology developed by Dr. William Glasser when he realized that all his psychiatric work was based on people choosing what they do so he decided to call what he practices choice theory. By learning to put choice theory to work in your life, you can improve […]


I recently met a young couple on their honeymoon and who also were 3 months pregnant. Having had 2 children myself, my first comment, after congratulating them of course, was: “And how are you doing?” What followed were giggles and sighs in reporting morning sickness, nausea, not able to do wine tasting, and needing a […]


  In light of the Harvey Weinstein scandal, the #MeToo movement started by Alyssa Milano has opened the door to many women to come forth with their tragic abuse experiences, which, for a long time, they felt they had no choice but to keep quiet about it. Ellen Degeneres said: “This is not a male […]

Quick, quick … Now, now.

For most people I meet, who are experiencing the ending of a relationship, they want a quick divorce, a quick fix to move on, an instant result to be able to turn the next chapter of their life. While staying stuck in anger and ongoing battles over a period of life which is no longer, […]

My kids are really mature!

I hear many separating parents claim how mature their children are during their separation. But think of it carefully. What would prompt you to acknowledge this? If a separation is handled in a mature way, with both parents paying extra attention that whatever disagreement they may have does not involve the children. That their children […]