Happy New Now!

This time of year, all we hear and read are: New Year, New Me Leave the past behind New beginning This was a tough year, may the new one be kinder … Then we repeat these exact same thoughts the next year. Sounds familiar? To set out a future goal, it has to begin with […]

Parenting Plan – cont.

For many divorcing/separating parents, a Parenting Plan is a document that completes the divorce or separation agreement and sets some markers for their co-parenting relationship. While it states the obvious on getting parents to agree on the sharing of the children, it also outlines some finer details necessary to raise children together while being apart. […]

Be on the same page.

I am often being approached by one parent enquiring on what their rights are regarding a Parenting Plan, because their co-parent’s lawyer is sending them a Parenting Plan that must be signed by a certain date. This is nothing short of bullying. A parenting plan is first and foremost a document developed, negotiated and agreed […]

Child Maintenance

Legally, both parents have an obligation and responsibility to support their children. This financial responsibility includes both direct and indirect costs such as education, medical, food, transport, clothing and accommodation. Child maintenance is then calculated bearing in mind the parents’ financial situations as well as the realistic needs of the child. The Maintenance Act creates […]

The Blueprint Challenge

So, I don’t usually jump on internet trends and fuel up with my own 2 cents and I certainly was not going to do it with the Momo Challenge! However, an article from KAREN HOPE BLACHER made me choose to act otherwise for the only reason that it is a brilliant article which actually offers […]

Parental Alienation

Everyone, by now, is familiar with the term Parental Alienation. I am not going to write about what is Parental Alienation. The subject has been widely documented as it is. What I want to write about is how to prevent it. Whether it is deemed illegal or categorised as a mental illness is not going […]

Who am I?

These 3 small words hold the key to unlocking your full potential. As a keen Choice Theorist, most of my work is based on Choice Theory, the work of William Glasser, MD, and is the culmination of some 50 years of theory and practice in psychology and counselling. During the process of learning Choice Theory, one is introduced to the […]

Mediation: A must for separating parents.

The end of your relationship has ended, and truth is, no one can really prepare you for the emotional turbulence that is about to be experienced. Sure, every separation is different, and the intensity of emotions will vary from person to person, but the ending of a relationship remains one of the most traumatic experience […]

Divorce/separation & Co-parenting

Most articles that I read on Co-Parenting refer to co-parents as 2 parents who have gone through a divorce/separation. They refer to co-parents as exes; ex husband/wife; ex lover; ex partner. Either way, the reference is focused on 2 people who are now apart after having been together and have had children together. The focus […]