“A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.” – James Allen
For many, making a choice is a very difficult task which is not always an option.
How many times do you hear yourself, or others for that matter, say: I have no choice.
How is this possible?
Did you know that NOT making a choice is a choice?
Think about it.
We may not always have a choice when facing the outcome of an event, but we do always have a choice in how we react to it.
For many, this idea comes from the belief that when we make a choice it is between good or bad, right or wrong, but in reality, making a choice is between what is right and what is easy.
We are always driven by what motivates us. When we are faced with making a choice, it needs to fit with what motivates us and more often than not, we will choose what is an easy way to get to it as opposed to the right way. It’s not wrong or bad per se, but to achieve meeting our motivation in an easy way is often selection to an inappropriate behaviour.
Making a “difficult” choice requires ownership and taking responsibility, if not for an outcome, then for our behaviour. In order to achieve this, we need to go deep inside our self and discover what we are really telling our self to fully understand how our behaviour may betray our choice, and it will allow us to create a plan for what we’ll do when a specific scenario comes up.
Here are 4 easy steps to practice making better choices:
- Question where is your motivation coming from?
- Clarify what you really want.
- Evaluate your current behaviour with If/Then statement
- For exemple:
- If I answer the email aggressively, then he will respond aggressively
- If I answer the email mindfully, then I will open a platform to find a solution
- What are you prepared to do/think differently that will take you in the direction you want to go?
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